*please keep in mind that research for this particular blog happened back in early May*
Since becoming single again, I have contemplated what kind of new guy that I wanted to date...most definitely had to be taller than me in heels, even if its just by a little bit, hair and eye color really do not matter that much, had to have the general personality traits that all ladies love (basically, don't be a a-hole and your golden), employed and so on and so on...but then age came into play.
When describing what I was kinda hoping to find in a new guy to one of my besties JA before yoga one night, she was totally like "I have the perfect guy for you - but he's younger" my response was "By how much" "3-7 years younger" ...I dang near choked on my water. But it really got me thinking, guys date women (if you can call them that sometimes) that are light years younger than them all the time, would it be so wrong if a woman dated a younger guy?
Opinions were completely split down the middle. I was altogether shocked when I found out that one of my very successful couple friends were in that exact situation...she is more than 4 years older than her husband. Another successful couple I know are getting married in February next year...shes older and he is younger.
Some of the ladies I talked to equated dating a younger guy to training a puppy...its all fun and games, till it chews on you new shoes or pees on the floor...but the theme with that was that they were "trainable"...I have a dog thanks, I do not need nor want to train a man, they should already come out of the box with all the training required. Any maintenance or troubleshooting tips should be included in the manual. nuff said.
When talking with two other friends, one commented on how younger guys can be incredibly mature for their age and how they are "always ready to go" (hint hint, wink wink)...to which the other one responded in saying "Everyone's mature till you see them first thing on a Saturday morning"...lets just say that peels of laughter ensued. And the topic was kind of lost on me after that, until recently.
I went out with the girls on Friday night, and then linked up half way through the night with one of my really close guy friends CZ...he was out with all of his friends, and being able to "be one of the boys" is something I know best, so I fit right in. In talking with all of the guys during the course of the rest of the night, the oldest one there was 24. Twenty effing four. Thats the age of my youngest brother. FML.
In talking with CZ the next afternoon, he commented on how the "guys took a shine to me" ... "great, I love how they can take a shine to a 30 year old" and after I said it, he got kinda mad at me... "its not like you look your age, so effing relax, if a guy likes you it shouldn't matter their age, take it as a compliment and go about your day with a smile". Lets just say that CZ can cut through any BS I put up fairly quickly on any topic. Its his gift.
I have never been one to look a gift horse in the mouth...but should age matter? Really?
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Monday, July 18, 2011
The Uniform *le sigh*
Yesterday I happened to have found myself outside my normal living environment (aka Downtown) and somewhere surreal (North Side Suburbia). I was checking on my brothers condo, and running a few weird errands while I was up there...at which point I discovered a car wash, outside a Canadian Tire, being run solely by firefighters. They were completely clothed...big old fire pants complete with red suspenders, boots, and what appeared to be a tight fitting blue t shirt (mind you with those pants, and t shirt would appear tight fitting regardless).
I instantly threw this up on my FB, announcing the location and that I should leave downtown more often, cause honestly, suburbia looked dang hawt yesterday because of this. A number of girl friends commented on how this deserved either a phone call or txt letting them know this information lol. Or about how sorry they were to have missed it.
Today I started to wonder: What is it about the uniform that makes women's ovaries kick into high gear? Really?
The majority of responses that I got back from ladies revolved around the uniform being a figure of authority, which I will address in a moment...but one of the best responses came from my friend LG, who said: "Visible proof of employment" lol. The guys I spoke with were just as confounded as I was for the most part.
Okay...so the authority figure...hmmm...usually implies a Type A personality, more principled, loyal, devoted, a certain work ethic, usually associated with a job of service = less selfish interests, they have their shit together and can take charge. Sounds like things that I can handle, as most women.
But in talking with a number of people, I quickly realized that there is a hierarchy to this uniform business, along with appropriate tag lines for each one:
1. Police - they carry around a gun, so they must know how to handle their weapons.
2. Firefighters - they can put out my blaze any day
3. Paramedics - I'd let him give me mouth to mouth, mmmm hmmm.
4. Doctors - there are too many tag lines with this one to count...think anatomy and go from there lol.
5. Military - heros plain and simple...plus, if your dating or married to one, you instantly become whats known as "the home front" and the "strength behind the uniform"...thank you public relations department of DND. (please understand that its not that I disagree with either of these, it just adds romance to a job that really isnt all that romantic).
There are a few other uniforms that ladies may find attractive, and they include but are not limited to: cowboys, constructions workers, delivery guys (UPS not Pizza 73), nurses, dentist and pro sports players.
I grew up around uniforms, so this really shouldn't affect me all that much, and yet I am a sucker for it just like most ladies. In fact, I find it exceedingly hard to NOT date a guy in uniform.
It boils down to this: uniforms = magic.
Ladies, we will continue to be attracted, excited, fascinated, charmed and glamored by this until we actually date one of these guys wearing a uniform...after that, we may still feel the magic, or see it for what its worth - something they wear to work!
I instantly threw this up on my FB, announcing the location and that I should leave downtown more often, cause honestly, suburbia looked dang hawt yesterday because of this. A number of girl friends commented on how this deserved either a phone call or txt letting them know this information lol. Or about how sorry they were to have missed it.
Today I started to wonder: What is it about the uniform that makes women's ovaries kick into high gear? Really?
The majority of responses that I got back from ladies revolved around the uniform being a figure of authority, which I will address in a moment...but one of the best responses came from my friend LG, who said: "Visible proof of employment" lol. The guys I spoke with were just as confounded as I was for the most part.
Okay...so the authority figure...hmmm...usually implies a Type A personality, more principled, loyal, devoted, a certain work ethic, usually associated with a job of service = less selfish interests, they have their shit together and can take charge. Sounds like things that I can handle, as most women.
But in talking with a number of people, I quickly realized that there is a hierarchy to this uniform business, along with appropriate tag lines for each one:
1. Police - they carry around a gun, so they must know how to handle their weapons.
2. Firefighters - they can put out my blaze any day
3. Paramedics - I'd let him give me mouth to mouth, mmmm hmmm.
4. Doctors - there are too many tag lines with this one to count...think anatomy and go from there lol.
5. Military - heros plain and simple...plus, if your dating or married to one, you instantly become whats known as "the home front" and the "strength behind the uniform"...thank you public relations department of DND. (please understand that its not that I disagree with either of these, it just adds romance to a job that really isnt all that romantic).
There are a few other uniforms that ladies may find attractive, and they include but are not limited to: cowboys, constructions workers, delivery guys (UPS not Pizza 73), nurses, dentist and pro sports players.
I grew up around uniforms, so this really shouldn't affect me all that much, and yet I am a sucker for it just like most ladies. In fact, I find it exceedingly hard to NOT date a guy in uniform.
It boils down to this: uniforms = magic.
Ladies, we will continue to be attracted, excited, fascinated, charmed and glamored by this until we actually date one of these guys wearing a uniform...after that, we may still feel the magic, or see it for what its worth - something they wear to work!
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