The last time I wrote about 'getting the lingo down', I was newly back on the single and mingling circuit, and I seriously had no idea what the heck people were talking about. Well, I still don't, but I talked with just about everyone I know and this is what I have figured out so far:
1. Talking. It means just that. Apparently one can talk via a variety of mediums. In person, on the phone, text messages, skype, iChat, MSN (if people still use it!), Facebook, Twitter and MySpace. I have come to gather that the majority of these options available to us, to make conversation and 'connecting' that much easier, seriously impair our ability to meet face to face and have a REAL conversation. This gets back to my earlier theory about how we are a society of namby-pamby's. Sex can fit anywhere into the talking phase.
2. Seeing. According to my "highly successful in a relationship that he hates" younger brother (no JS, this is NOT that brother), the words 'I'm seeing someone' is one of the nicest let downs that one sex can give to another that you are not interested in. It is usually followed up with the phrase 'well, if it doesn't work out, let me know or give me a call'. Sex can fit into the seeing phase, regardless if you are really seeing someone or not.
3. Dating Part 1. In talking with both male and female friends, dating is a universal word tossed about like salad dressing. You can go on a date with just about anyone and not have it mean anything. Dating used to have a very serious connotation to it, something along the lines of 'going steady' or wearing his football jacket or something white picket fence like that. Unfortunately due to women's lib, we screwed this up and created "seeing". Fml. I still don't get it.
4. Dating Part 2. You have it on your Facebook that you are now a couple and everyone comments on how you are so perfect for each other, that they are so fake happy for you and congratulations. This is usually when I remove people from my news feed. This totally reminds me of those silly silly people that have that white stick figure family and pets on their vehicles. At this point, I usually have to wonder, what the heck happens if one of them dies? Who in their right mind would seriously sit there and scrape that crap off? I could go off all night on this topic alone. But at any rate, if your not getting some at this point, take a hard look around.
5. Relationship. Usually a committed agreement between you and the other party. No one is sleeping around (or shouldnt be!), Facebook relationship status is still intact, you have met the parents, friends, weird fringe family members, have seen the other super drunk and haven't laughed at them too much when they spoon the comfort station all night long and you have outlasted the random late night text messages from people the other party was previously 'seeing'. At this point, due to comfort, sex is around, but usually 2-3 times per week instead of the vigorous multiple times before leaving the house for work in the morning.
6. Sex between friends. This is a new concept to me. I talked with a few people about it. In theory, its two fairly decent friends that can muster up some attraction for one and other (sometimes, this is not all that hard to do), and help each other out in times of need. In practice this usually results in one side becoming attached and the other side freaking out. End of friendship. This is also referred to as 'f&ck buddies'.
I am hoping that my new arsenal of lingo can give me a boost up on the dating scene this time around, but in my research I came across more idiom's than I care to admit. So, I am going to smile and nod and fake it till I make it...and pretend like hell that I KNOW what I am talking about!
Friday, May 27, 2011
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Perceptions
Part of my job is to constantly meet new people. I have a new class at least 3 times per week, with anywhere from 10-18 students each time. Thats approximately 54 new faces per week, and 216 per month. More if I teach on weekends. Within half a day I have already formed a perception about each of my students based on their behavior and what they present to me in class. For some students, its not the best perception.
I wonder if this would change if I met them somewhere else? Under different circumstances?
Then I wonder about some of the people I know. There are a few people that I have known of for years, chat with time to time, but never really crossed the hurdle into "real friend zone".
Lets take for example, 2 guys. One I have been on chatting terms with for just a little over 5 years now. The other, I am also on chatting terms with, but only recently.
The one that I have known for a while always has something raunchy to say..."oh you live alone, so I guess that means you can be as dirty as you want" ...I know he is not talking about me hiding dirty dishes in the dishwasher. When he said this to me, I commented on how hitting on me for the last number of years was going for him, and that I would ask if he was feeling okay if he stopped. My perception is that his comments are apart of his routine. Let's just say that he fired back pretty quickly that "I don't know him"...very true. I don't know him all that well, but I know what I see. And for the last 5 years, I see a player.
Is this true? No idea. But it is what is presented to me. And it is what my perception is formed around.
Now lets take guy number 2, the one that I have only known recently. This is the guy that I have been talking with via txt, and only txt. No calls. No emails. Very little FB interaction. Just txt. We're "friends" that never really talk, nor see each other. This is something that frustrates the hell out of me. I have a tendency to want to see my friends in the flesh. Talk to them from time to time on the phone. Do activities with. In a small way, I feel like this guy is like the imaginary friend I had when I was 4. There but not there. My perception of this guy is that he could care less or that he is playing some sort of an angel. Again, I do not know him all that well, but I base my perceptions on what I see.
I am pretty aware of how people can perceive me from time to time. Cold, unfeeling, stuck up, bitchy, to ridged, demanding, easily frustrated, strict, challenging and the list goes on from there.
I am on a constant pursuit of changing the perceptions I have of people, places and things. I want to think the best of each and every person I come across. But I am also realistic, in that sometimes no matter how hard you look, your perceptions may not change.
My sincere desire is that I be given the same chance to change the perception that sometimes people have of me. Cause when it comes down to it, perception is easily changed.
I wonder if this would change if I met them somewhere else? Under different circumstances?
Then I wonder about some of the people I know. There are a few people that I have known of for years, chat with time to time, but never really crossed the hurdle into "real friend zone".
Lets take for example, 2 guys. One I have been on chatting terms with for just a little over 5 years now. The other, I am also on chatting terms with, but only recently.
The one that I have known for a while always has something raunchy to say..."oh you live alone, so I guess that means you can be as dirty as you want" ...I know he is not talking about me hiding dirty dishes in the dishwasher. When he said this to me, I commented on how hitting on me for the last number of years was going for him, and that I would ask if he was feeling okay if he stopped. My perception is that his comments are apart of his routine. Let's just say that he fired back pretty quickly that "I don't know him"...very true. I don't know him all that well, but I know what I see. And for the last 5 years, I see a player.
Is this true? No idea. But it is what is presented to me. And it is what my perception is formed around.
Now lets take guy number 2, the one that I have only known recently. This is the guy that I have been talking with via txt, and only txt. No calls. No emails. Very little FB interaction. Just txt. We're "friends" that never really talk, nor see each other. This is something that frustrates the hell out of me. I have a tendency to want to see my friends in the flesh. Talk to them from time to time on the phone. Do activities with. In a small way, I feel like this guy is like the imaginary friend I had when I was 4. There but not there. My perception of this guy is that he could care less or that he is playing some sort of an angel. Again, I do not know him all that well, but I base my perceptions on what I see.
I am pretty aware of how people can perceive me from time to time. Cold, unfeeling, stuck up, bitchy, to ridged, demanding, easily frustrated, strict, challenging and the list goes on from there.
I am on a constant pursuit of changing the perceptions I have of people, places and things. I want to think the best of each and every person I come across. But I am also realistic, in that sometimes no matter how hard you look, your perceptions may not change.
My sincere desire is that I be given the same chance to change the perception that sometimes people have of me. Cause when it comes down to it, perception is easily changed.
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