I Know What's Happening...But Do YOU?

I started my musings in full force today...and the thought that kept running through my head, was when you know the relationship is not going to work out - how does one end it?

I thought about my past breakups, and then I started talking to people. And I got some seriously funny and not so funny responses from both my guy friends and girl friends. Below are some of the funny responses on how people have been broken up with, or have done the breaking up:

1. Phone Call: this may or may not include fake crying from either party, slightly impersonal, but at least you can hear the tone of voice/emotion from the other party while they are doing it.

2. Over Dinner: this one is waaaay more tricky than people give it credit for. The idea is to break up with someone, in person, but in a public setting so that a scene apparently cannot be made. This can go either way. But in the end the person that is being broken up with, is still left feeling humiliated, but this time in public rather than private.

3. A Post It Note: thank you Sex and the City Season 5 for this one! Aside from this particular show, I have not encountered it being done in real life, but this was a popular response from the ladies on how NOT to do it. lol.

4. Text: this method is fast becoming more and more socially acceptable. Especially when you have only been on a few dates with the person, or have been in the "talking" phase and something has been done or said that has irked one party into not wanting to see the other. This is also used as a reminder that the breakup has already taken place, when one party is in denial of the situation.

5. The FB Relationship Status Change: again, this is becoming more and more socially acceptable. Each sides friends/family (all depends on who you have on your friends listing) is made aware of the change with a simple mouse click and it automatically populates news feed. If one person is not aware that the other side is even leaning towards this course of action, it can be shocking, especially if they haven't checked FB for a while and a random friend calls to console them.

6. The "Fade Away": this one is really really popular for when you are just starting to "see" a person, and you figured out fairly quickly that it is not in your best interests to keep it going. Slowly phone calls are phased out (if you even reached that stage), txts and emails also start to slow down and then subsequently stop altogether. This can be done over a longer period of time, or abruptly. Depends on the person doing the "fade away".

With each of the above, it sucks for the person on the receiving end. It does help to obtain closure though...so I do not recommend the "Fade Away", nothing beats, down and dirty, telling the person straight out whats happening.

Cause I don't know about you, but I would much rather have someone be honest with me, than have me come home and confronted with the other person not only having sex with someone else, but then realizing, that someone else is wearing my shoes!